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The Stick: rear entry bent over the arm of the sofa

The Stick is a rear-entry position that uses the arm of the sofa as its base. She bends forward over the armrest, with her pelvis on top of it and her chest, forearms and head resting on the seat cushion. He stands on the floor behind her, holds her hips and sets the pace. Penetration, vaginal or anal, can be deep, and she can relax fully supported by the sofa.

Also known as: Stickman · Over the arm of the sofa · Bent over the sofa

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Illustration of The Stick: Rear entry over the arm of the sofa: she bends forward over the armrest with her chest on the seat, and he stands behind her on the floor.
Anatomy and biomechanics

She bends forward over the arm of the sofa: her pelvis and lower belly rest on top of the armrest, and her torso stretches forward and down onto the seat, with her forearms and head on the cushion and her face turned to the side. Her knees are bent and close together, with her lower legs and feet reaching toward the floor on the outside of the armrest. He stands upright on the floor directly behind her, feet slightly apart, with both hands on her hips. He controls the rhythm, and penetration, vaginal or, if you both want it, anal, can be deep. There is no eye contact and little body contact. The loads are her lower belly against the armrest and his lower back if he leans in.

Why this position works

Some couples like it because she can relax, fully supported by the sofa, while he moves freely from a stable standing position. The armrest raises her pelvis to a comfortable height for him, and penetration can be deep. It also has a playful, spontaneous feel, since it does not need a bed. For some people the sense of surrender adds to the excitement. Sensations vary from person to person.

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Variations of this position

Variation 1: with a cushion on the armrest

She bends over a firm cushion placed on top of the armrest, which pads her belly and raises her pelvis slightly.

The cushion spreads the pressure on her lower belly and lifts her pelvis a few centimetres. The height then suits a taller partner better, and the angle of entry becomes a little more horizontal.

  1. Place a firm cushion or folded towel on the arm of the sofa.
  2. She bends over the cushion, with her pelvis on top and her chest on the seat.
  3. He stands behind her and checks that the height lets him stay upright.
  4. Start slowly and adjust the cushion if she feels pressure on her belly.

Variation 2: with straight legs and feet on the floor

She straightens her legs and plants her feet on the floor, standing and bent at the hips over the armrest.

With straight legs, she takes some of her weight on her feet and her pelvis sits a little higher and steadier. She can push back to meet his rhythm. It asks for a bit more flexibility in the backs of her thighs.

  1. She stands in front of the arm of the sofa, facing the seat.
  2. She bends at the hips until her pelvis rests on the armrest and her chest on the seat.
  3. She straightens her legs and plants her feet on the floor, slightly apart.
  4. He stands behind her, and she can push gently back to meet his movement.

Variation 3: torso raised on her hands

Instead of lying with her chest on the seat, she props herself up on her hands or forearms and arches her back slightly.

Raising her torso changes the tilt of her pelvis, and penetration is usually a little shallower. She gains control and can turn her head to look at her partner, though her arms take more weight.

  1. From the base position, she places her hands on the sofa seat.
  2. She straightens her arms or stays on her forearms and arches her back slightly.
  3. He keeps his hands on her hips and adapts the depth to the new angle.
  4. If her arms tire, she lowers her chest back onto the seat.

Variation 4: at the edge of the bed with pillows

She bends over a stack of pillows at the edge of the bed, with him standing behind her on the floor.

The pillows play the role of the armrest but are softer and wider: they spread the pressure on her belly better and let you adjust the height. Her torso rests on the mattress.

  1. Stack two or three firm pillows at the edge of the bed.
  2. She bends over them, with her pelvis on top and her chest on the mattress.
  3. She lets her legs hang toward the floor or rests her feet on it.
  4. He stands behind her, and you adjust the pillows until the height feels comfortable.

✓ Tips
  • Put a cushion or folded towel on the armrest: her lower belly takes pressure there.
  • Use a sturdy sofa that does not slide, with him standing firmly on a non-slip floor; adjust the height with cushions if needed and stop if anything shifts.
  • He should keep his back straight and bend his knees slightly rather than leaning over her.
  • Thrust with control: from behind, if the penis slips out and hits her body at an angle, it can bend.
  • Penetration can be deep: start slowly and stop if she feels pain.
  • For anal sex, use plenty of lubricant, go slowly and use a condom; do not switch from anal to vaginal without changing the condom.
  • Use a condom to protect against STIs.
Interaction type
Rear-entry penetration, with her bent over the arm of the sofa and him standing
Active anatomy
Penis
Receptive anatomy
Vagina or anus
Main stimulation
Deep penetration from behind, vaginal or anal, with her bent over the arm of the sofa
Setups and participants
Couple · 2 people Hetero

Frequently asked questions

Is it suitable for beginners?

Yes. She is fully supported by the sofa and needs no strength or balance; he only has to stand steadily behind her.

What if the armrest is uncomfortable?

Pad it with a cushion or folded towel. If the pressure on her belly still bothers her, try variation 4 at the edge of the bed with pillows.

Can it be used for anal sex?

Yes. Use plenty of lubricant and a condom, start slowly and stop if there is pain.

How do you control the depth?

He sets it: staying a little further back or making shorter movements reduces the depth. She can also raise her torso on her hands (variation 3) to change the angle.

Safety and evidence 2 topics · 3 clinical and academic references

Scientific context for common terms used on this page. Keeping these terms makes the content easier to understand; the sources clarify what is established and what remains uncertain.

G-spot: what the evidence says

“G-spot” is a widely used term for a sensitive area of the anterior vaginal wall. Scientific literature has not established a discrete anatomical structure with an agreed location, size and nature; sensitivity and response can vary between individuals.

Sources
O'Connell HE, Sanjeevan KV, Hutson JM. Anatomy of the clitoris. The Journal of Urology. 2005. PubMed ↗
Vieira-Baptista P, et al. G-spot: Fact or Fiction? A Systematic Review. Sexual Medicine. 2021. PubMed ↗

A-spot / AFE zone: limited evidence

The “A-spot” or AFE zone has been proposed to describe a deeper area of the anterior vaginal wall. Available evidence is limited and does not support presenting it as a confirmed anatomical structure.

Sources
Chua Chee Ann. A proposal for a radical new sex therapy technique… the AFE Zone Stimulation Technique. Sexual and Marital Therapy. 1997. Original article ↗

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