Anatomy and biomechanics
The base person sits in a cross-legged or extended position; the person on top sits on their lap, wrapping their legs around them. Both spines align vertically, and the movement is a short pelvic rocking. It's a low-intensity mechanical pose with high contact and intimacy.
Why this position works
It's pure connection: bodies fully embraced, faces a palm's distance apart, breath synchronizing on its own. It doesn't seek depth or fast rhythm, but sustained intimacy, which is why it's the queen of tantric sex and 'slow sex'. Perfect for reconnecting and for those who enjoy closeness above all else.
The Lotus Flower: the embrace that envelops everything
The tantra's favorite pose for a reason. Seated and intertwined, face to face, with bodies embraced and breath synchronized: the lotus flower is not about speed, it's about connection.
Also known as: lotus · yab-yum · tantric · the lotus · seated intertwined
Variations of this position
1. Reclined lotus: less effort
Like the lotus, with the base person leaning back on their hands.
The base person leans back with their hands on the ground, opening the abdominal angle and relieving the back.
- Adopt the lotus flower.
- The base person leans back on their hands.
- The angle opens and the back rests.
2. On the edge: feet on the floor
The base person sits on the edge of the bed with their feet on the floor; the other sits on their lap.
The base person sits on the edge of the bed with their feet on the floor, providing more stability and some momentum.
- The base person sits on the edge of the bed.
- Place your feet on the floor.
- The other person sits on their lap, wrapping their legs around them.
✓ Tips
- Don't seek back-and-forth motion: the movement is a slow hip rocking.
- Synchronize your breathing; it's part of the appeal.
- If your back gets tired, the person on top can support themselves with their hands behind them.
- A cushion under the base person helps maintain a comfortable alignment.
Key facts
- Interaction type
- Penetration or contact seated and intertwined
- Active anatomy
- Pénis / Vulve
- Receptive anatomy
- Vagin / Vulve / Anus
- Main stimulation
- Frontal / Clitoris / Breathing
- Setups and participants
- Couple · 2 people GayHeteroLesbian
Frequently asked questions
Do I need to be flexible?
Not really: the base person can extend their legs if crossing them is uncomfortable.
Is it suitable if we're looking for intensity?
It's more about intimacy and rocking than intensity; for that, combine it with others.
Why is it associated with tantra?
Because of the total contact, shared breath, and conscious rhythm, not oriented towards rushing.
Sources and references
- Literatura de sexología clínica y ergonomía sexual
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