Anatomy and biomechanics
Approach to sexuality focused on body awareness and connection: uses breathing, slowing down movement and mindfulness to intensify and prolong the experience, shifting the focus from genital orgasm to a more global and sustained pleasure. Static contact postures (lotus, spooning) are its allies.
Why this position works
Transform sex into a more fulfilling and less anxious experience: by letting go of the orgasm goal, a richer, more present and connected enjoyment emerges. Shared breathing and slowness create deep intimacy and help prolong pleasure. For many couples, it's rediscovering sex from another place.
Tantric Sex: the pleasure of going slow
In a world in a hurry, tantra proposes the opposite: stopping the clock. Tantric sex —or slow sex— doesn't seek the goal, but the journey: breathing, presence and connection to transform pleasure into something deeper, more conscious and lasting.
Also known as: tantra · tantric sex · slow sex · conscious sex · mindful sex · yab-yum
Variations of this position
1. Breathing: the starting point
Two people intertwined, synchronizing their breathing, face to face.
Seated and intertwined, synchronize your breathing before and during, as the foundation of everything.
- Sit intertwined, face to face.
- Synchronize your breathing.
- Move very little, feel a lot.
2. Sustained gaze: total connection
Two people holding each other's gaze during the intimate encounter, full presence.
Maintaining eye contact during the encounter deepens the connection and presence.
- Hold each other's gaze without forcing.
- Breathe together.
- Let the connection guide the rhythm.
✓ Tips
- Start with breathing: synchronize it before moving.
- Choose postures with contact and little movement, like the lotus flower.
- Let go of the orgasm goal; focus on each present sensation.
- Hold eye contact; it connects more than any technique.
- Less movement and more presence: that's the key.
Key facts
- Interaction type
- Conscious and connected sex (tantra / slow sex)
- Active anatomy
- Body / Breathing
- Receptive anatomy
- Body / Genitals
- Main stimulation
- Global / Breathing / Presence
- Setups and participants
- Couple · 2 people GayHeteroLesbian
Frequently asked questions
Do I need training or experience?
No; you can start with the basics: breathing, slowness and presence.
Do you have to give up orgasm?
No; it is no longer pursued as the only goal, which often makes it more intense when it arrives.
What is the most tantric posture?
The lotus flower (yab-yum), for its total contact and stillness.
Sources and references
- Literatura de sexología clínica y ergonomía sexual
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