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The Scorpion: side-lying 69 with mutual oral sex

The Scorpion is a side-lying 69: two people lie on their sides in opposite directions, each with the face at the level of the other's pelvis, and give each other oral sex at the same time. It works for any couple, whatever their anatomy. The top leg of each person is bent and lifted to open access, and the partner can hold the foot or ankle. It is relaxed, takes little effort and is gentler on the neck and back than the classic 69 with one person on top.

Also known as: Side 69 · Sideways 69

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Illustration of The Scorpion: A 69 lying on the side: each person lies in the opposite direction with the face at the other's pelvis, top leg lifted, and both give oral sex at the same time.
Anatomy and biomechanics

Both partners lie on their sides on the bed, facing each other's body but in opposite directions, so each head is at the level of the other person's pelvis and each person's legs are beside the other's head. Each one bends the top leg and lifts it to open the space between the thighs, while the lower leg stays extended or slightly bent. One hand can hold the partner's buttock to bring the pelvis closer and the other can hold the raised foot or ankle. Each person gives oral sex to the other at the same time, using the mouth and, if they like, the fingers. Nobody is on top, so no one carries the other's weight; the main load is on the neck, which has to keep the head in position.

Why this position works

Many couples like it because both people give and receive at the same time, at a calm pace and without carrying any weight. Lying on the side is more comfortable than the classic 69, it lets you stay in the position for longer and it is easy to pause and switch to taking turns. There is no eye contact, but there is a lot of closeness and touch. Sensations vary from person to person.

Sensory Exploration Relaxation and Surrender Easy Maximized Clitoral Stimulation Non-Penetrative Interaction

Variations of this position

Variation 1: resting the head on the partner's thigh

Same side-lying 69, but each person rests the head on the partner's lower thigh instead of holding it up.

The bodies stay on their sides in opposite directions. Resting the head on the lower thigh of the other person, like a pillow, takes almost all the load off the neck, so the position can last much longer. The mouth stays at the right height without effort, and the hands are free.

  1. Lie on your sides in opposite directions, each face at the other's pelvis.
  2. Each person rests the head on the inside of the partner's lower thigh.
  3. Bend and lift the top leg to open space.
  4. Use the free hands to hold the hips or caress.

Variation 2: top foot resting on the bed

Same side-lying 69, but the top leg is bent with the foot resting on the bed instead of lifted in the air.

Instead of lifting the top leg and having the partner hold it, each person bends the top knee and plants that foot on the bed in front of the lower leg. The thighs stay open with no effort, the hip does not tire, and both of the partner's hands are free. Access is a little narrower than with the leg raised.

  1. Start in the basic side-lying 69.
  2. Each person bends the top knee and rests that foot flat on the bed.
  3. Let the knee fall slightly open to keep space between the thighs.
  4. Use both hands to hold the partner's hips or caress.

Variation 3: combining mouth and fingers

Same side-lying 69, adding the fingers to the oral sex, or using only the hands for a while to rest the mouth and neck.

The position does not change. The hand that was holding the raised leg or the buttock is used to stimulate the partner: stroking the penis, the clitoris or the vulva, or the perineum, at the same time as the mouth. It also allows short breaks without stopping, and it is useful when one partner takes longer to reach orgasm.

  1. Start in the basic side-lying 69.
  2. Keep nails short and hands clean; add lubricant if you use the fingers on the vulva or anus.
  3. Combine the mouth with gentle movements of the fingers.
  4. If the neck tires, continue only with the hands for a while.

Variation 4: taking turns instead of at the same time

Same side-lying 69, but only one person gives oral sex at a time while the other simply receives, then you swap.

The bodies stay exactly in the side-lying 69. Instead of giving and receiving at once, one partner relaxes and lets the other focus on them, then the roles switch without moving. It makes it easier to concentrate on the sensations and to say what you like, and the neck of the person resting gets a break.

  1. Get into the basic side-lying 69.
  2. Agree who receives first.
  3. The receiving partner relaxes, resting the head on the partner's thigh, while the other gives oral sex.
  4. Swap roles when you like, without changing position.

✓ Tips
  • Put a pillow or rest the head on the partner's lower thigh so the neck does not strain; change sides if it gets tired.
  • Bend the top leg only as far as is comfortable; the partner can support it by the foot or ankle.
  • Go at your own pace: it is fine to pause, take turns or switch to the hands for a while.
  • Oral sex can transmit STIs: use a condom on the penis or a dental dam on the vulva or anus if you are not sure of each other's status.
  • If you add the fingers or anal play, keep the nails short and do not move from the anus to the vulva or mouth without washing first.
  • Watch the teeth, and let each person say what intensity they like.
Interaction type
Side-lying mutual oral sex (69)
Active anatomy
Mouth and tongue (and fingers)
Receptive anatomy
Penis or vulva, depending on the couple
Main stimulation
Mutual oral sex (penis, vulva or both, depending on the couple)
Setups and participants
Couple · 2 people Hetero

Frequently asked questions

Is the side 69 easier than the classic 69?

Yes, for most couples. Nobody has to hold themselves up on top of the other person, so it is less tiring and more comfortable for the neck and back.

Which couples is it for?

For any couple: man and woman, two men or two women. Each person adapts the oral sex to their partner's anatomy.

How do we protect ourselves from STIs?

Oral sex can transmit infections. Use a condom on the penis or a dental dam on the vulva if you do not know each other's status.

What if it is hard to concentrate on giving and receiving at once?

It happens to many people. Take turns: one person receives while the other gives, and then swap, without changing position.

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