The Rocking of the Waves: reverse cowgirl with the receiving partner in control

The receiving partner leans the torso forward and rests the hands on the lower partner's thighs or shins.

Leaning forward changes the angle of penetration and moves some of the weight onto the hands, which rests the thighs. The partner underneath gets a closer view of the receiving partner's back and buttocks. Keep the movement short: the angle makes the penis bend more easily.

1. Start in the basic position, sitting upright.
2. Lean the torso forward slowly and place the hands on the partner's thighs or shins.
3. Keep the feet flat on the bed.
4. Move with short, controlled rocking rather than wide strokes.

The receiving partner leans back and supports themselves with the hands on the bed beside the lower partner's chest.

Leaning back brings the torsos closer and frees the front of the receiving partner's body, so the partner underneath can reach the chest or genitals with a hand. Movement becomes a gentle rocking; depth is reduced.

1. From the basic position, the receiving partner leans back slowly.
2. They place the hands on the bed on either side of the partner's chest.
3. The partner underneath can put an arm around their waist for support.
4. Rock the pelvis gently, without rising and dropping.

The receiving partner rests the knees on the bed on either side of the lower partner's hips instead of the feet.

Kneeling lowers the effort for the thighs and makes the position more stable; movement becomes a back-and-forth rocking rather than rising and lowering. It is a good option for longer sessions or when the knees bent with feet down get tired.

1. From the basic position, the receiving partner lowers one knee and then the other onto the bed beside the partner's hips.
2. They keep the torso upright or slightly forward.
3. Move by rocking the pelvis back and forth.
4. Place a soft surface under the knees if needed.

The penetrating partner sits up against the headboard or a pile of pillows, with the receiving partner still facing their feet.

Sitting up brings the chest of the penetrating partner against the receiving partner's back, so both arms are free to hug the waist, caress or kiss the neck. The receiving partner still leads the rhythm, with smaller movements.

1. The penetrating partner sits with the back against the headboard or firm pillows, legs stretched out.
2. The receiving partner sits on their pelvis facing their feet, feet on the bed.
3. The partner behind wraps the arms around the waist or hips.
4. The receiving partner moves with short rocking movements.

The receiving partner stays fully seated and moves only by rocking or circling the pelvis, without rising and lowering.

Staying seated keeps penetration constant and the movement small, which is gentler on the thighs and lowers the risk of the penis bending. The pressure of the pelvis can be very pleasant for some people.

1. Sit fully on the partner's pelvis with the feet flat on the bed.
2. Rock the pelvis slowly back and forth.
3. Try small circles or figure-of-eight movements.
4. Keep contact at all times, without lifting off.

The partner lying underneath wears a harness with a dildo; the receiving partner sits on top facing their feet as in the basic position.

The mechanics are the same, but the toy does not bend, so the receiving partner can move more freely; it is still worth going slowly. The harness should be well adjusted so it does not shift.

1. Adjust the harness firmly and put a condom on the dildo if it will be shared.
2. The partner wearing it lies on their back with the legs stretched out.
3. The receiving partner sits on top facing their feet, with plenty of lubricant.
4. Clean the toy after use.