The Whispering Pendulum: squatting reverse cowgirl
The Whispering Pendulum is a squatting reverse cowgirl. He lies on his back with his legs stretched out, and she squats over his pelvis facing his feet, with her feet on the bed on either side of his legs. She sets the pace and the depth by rising and lowering, like a pendulum. Penetration, vaginal or anal, can be deep, and there is no eye contact, so it helps to talk and go gently at first.
Also known as: Squatting reverse cowgirl · Overturned
Anatomy and biomechanics
He lies flat on his back with his legs straight and his hands on her waist or lower back. She is on top, facing his feet: she squats over his pelvis with her knees bent and raised and her feet flat on the mattress on either side of his legs. Her torso is upright and tilted slightly back, and she can rest her hands on his thighs for balance. She controls the rhythm and depth by rising and lowering from her legs or rocking her hips. Penetration can be deep. There is no eye contact or kissing, and body contact is partial. Her knees and thighs work hard in the squat, so it is worth alternating with resting phases.
Why this position works
She has full control of rhythm and depth, and leaning forward or back changes the angle in a way some people find very intense. He can relax and enjoy the view, with his hands free to guide her hips. Her hands, or his, can reach her clitoris easily. Sensations vary from person to person.
Variations of this position
Variation 1: she kneels instead of squatting
She lowers her knees to the mattress on either side of his hips instead of squatting.
Only her legs change: knees and shins on the bed instead of feet. It is far less tiring for her thighs and more stable, but her up-and-down travel is shorter, so she moves more by rocking her hips.
- Start in the base position.
- She places one knee and then the other on the mattress beside his hips.
- She keeps her torso upright, hands on his thighs if she wants.
- She rocks her hips forwards and back.
Variation 2: she leans forward onto his legs
She leans her torso forward and rests her hands on his shins or knees.
Only her torso changes: it tilts forward and her hands take part of the weight on his legs. Her thighs work less and the angle changes; it bends the penis further forward, so she should go gently and stop if he feels discomfort.
- Start in the base position.
- She leans forward slowly and places her hands on his shins or knees.
- She checks with him that the angle is comfortable.
- She moves with short up-and-down movements.
Variation 3: she leans back onto her hands
She leans her torso back and places her hands on the bed beside his chest.
Only her torso changes: it tilts back and her hands rest on the mattress on either side of his torso. Her pelvis tilts forward, which changes the angle and leaves her clitoris more exposed for his hand or hers. The movement becomes shorter and slower.
- Start in the base position.
- She leans back slowly and places her hands on the bed beside his chest.
- She keeps her feet planted and her knees apart.
- She rocks her hips gently; he or she can add a hand on the clitoris.
Variation 4: he bends his knees and she holds them
He bends his knees with his feet on the bed, and she holds on to his knees for balance.
Only his legs change: knees up and feet planted instead of legs straight. His knees become a handle for her, so she squats with more stability and less effort in her thighs. Her back stays upright.
- He bends his knees and plants his feet on the bed, hip-width apart.
- She squats over his pelvis facing his feet, between his legs.
- She holds his knees with both hands.
- She rises and lowers using his knees for support.
Variation 5: he props himself up on pillows
He leans back against pillows or the headboard, half sitting, so his chest is closer to her back.
Only his torso changes: half reclined instead of flat. His hands reach her waist, breasts and clitoris more easily, and he can kiss her shoulders. She keeps squatting facing his feet; the angle changes slightly, so check that it is comfortable for him.
- He piles up two or three firm pillows or leans against the headboard.
- He reclines half sitting with his legs straight.
- She squats over his pelvis facing his feet.
- He wraps his arms around her waist while she sets the pace.
Variation 6: she holds still and he moves from below
She holds the squat slightly raised, hands on his thighs, and he moves his pelvis gently from below.
The position stays the same, but the rhythm passes to him: with his feet planted, he lifts and lowers his hips in short movements. Her thighs rest a little. Because she is above and facing away, he should keep the movements short and controlled so the penis does not slip out and bend.
- Start in the base position.
- She rests her hands on his thighs and stays still, slightly raised.
- He bends his knees a little, plants his feet and lifts his pelvis in short movements.
- Agree on a signal to switch back to her setting the pace.
✓ Tips
- She should rise and lower in a controlled way and avoid lifting so high that the penis slips out: if she drops back onto it at an angle it can bend. He can steady her hips.
- The angle in reverse cowgirl bends the penis forward: if he feels pain or pressure, she should lean less or slow down.
- Squatting tires her knees and thighs: she can rest her hands on his thighs or drop onto her knees for a while.
- Use lube, and plenty of it for anal penetration, and a condom; do not switch from anal to vaginal without changing the condom.
- Start gently because penetration can be deep, and stop if there is pain.
Key facts
- Interaction type
- Vaginal or anal penetration with her on top, squatting and facing away
- Active anatomy
- Penis
- Receptive anatomy
- Vagina or anus; clitoris (by hand, optional)
- Main stimulation
- Deep vaginal or anal penetration with her squatting on top, facing his feet; possible manual clitora
- Setups and participants
- Couple · 2 people Hetero
Frequently asked questions
How is it different from the classic reverse cowgirl?
In the classic version she kneels; here she squats with her feet on the bed. That gives her more travel and control of depth, but it is more tiring for her legs.
Is it risky for the penis?
It is one of the positions where care is most needed: she should move in a controlled way, not lift off completely, and avoid leaning too far forward if it hurts him.
How can she make it less tiring?
Resting her hands on his thighs, dropping onto her knees for a while or slowing the rhythm. Alternating phases helps her last longer.
Can it be done with anal penetration?
Yes, with plenty of lubricant, a condom, prior preparation and a very gradual descent controlled by her.
Safety and evidence
Scientific context for common terms used on this page. Keeping these terms makes the content easier to understand; the sources clarify what is established and what remains uncertain.
G-spot: what the evidence says
“G-spot” is a widely used term for a sensitive area of the anterior vaginal wall. Scientific literature has not established a discrete anatomical structure with an agreed location, size and nature; sensitivity and response can vary between individuals.
A-spot / AFE zone: limited evidence
The “A-spot” or AFE zone has been proposed to describe a deeper area of the anterior vaginal wall. Available evidence is limited and does not support presenting it as a confirmed anatomical structure.
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