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Physical effort: Low Lateral

Reversed Jam: lying on your sides, head to feet

Reversed Jam is a side-lying position for vaginal sex in which the partners lie head to feet. She lies on her side and raises her upper leg diagonally, keeping the lower one straight. He lies on his side facing the opposite way, with his head near her feet, brings his pelvis against hers and rests his bent legs over her upper body. Both can move gently, penetration is shallow and the effort is low, so it suits slow, relaxed sessions. There is no eye contact: the closeness comes from the touch of legs and hips.

Also known as: Marmalade · Inverted Jam

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Illustration of Reversed Jam: Both lie on their sides in opposite directions, head to feet: she raises her upper leg and he rests his bent legs over her body.
Anatomy and biomechanics

She lies on her side with her head at one end of the bed, her lower leg straight and her upper leg lifted diagonally to open the hips. He lies on his side in the opposite direction, so his head is beside her feet, and slides in until his pelvis meets hers; his legs, bent at the knees, rest over her torso. She can hold his thigh with one hand. Both partners rest their weight on the bed along their sides, so neither carries the other. The rhythm is shared and made of small pelvic movements; the crossed angle keeps penetration shallow. There is no eye contact or kissing on the mouth, although he can kiss or caress her feet. Effort and balance demands are low.

Why this position works

Some couples like it because it is restful: you are both lying down, no one bears the other's weight and the movements are small, so it can be held for a long time. The unusual head-to-feet arrangement brings a sense of novelty and lets you caress each other's legs and feet. Shallow penetration suits those who prefer gentle sensations; as always, what feels good varies from person to person.

Sensory Exploration Relaxation and Surrender Easy Penis-Vagina Configuration

Variations of this position

Variation 1: her raised leg resting on him

She rests her raised leg on his shoulder or upper arm instead of holding it up.

Same head-to-feet position, but instead of holding her upper leg up in the air, she lays it over his shoulder or upper arm. Her hip stays open without effort, so the position can be held longer and the angle becomes slightly wider.

  1. Lie on your sides head to feet, pelvises together.
  2. She lifts her upper leg and lays it over his shoulder or upper arm.
  3. He holds her leg gently in place with one hand.
  4. Move with small pelvic movements.

Variation 2: cushion under her hip

A flat cushion under her lower hip raises her pelvis slightly.

She places a flat cushion or folded towel under her lower hip. Her pelvis rises a little, which makes it easier to line up with his when there is a height or body-size difference, and slightly changes the angle of penetration.

  1. She places a flat cushion under the hip she is lying on.
  2. She lies on her side and lifts her upper leg.
  3. He lies in the opposite direction and brings his pelvis to hers.
  4. Adjust the cushion until you are both comfortable without twisting.

Variation 3: his legs stretched alongside her

He stretches his legs alongside her body instead of resting them on her torso.

Instead of bending his legs over her upper body, he keeps them straight along the bed beside her. She has more freedom for her arms and torso, which makes it easier for her to use a hand on her clitoris, although there is a little less body contact.

  1. Start in the basic head-to-feet position.
  2. He straightens his legs and lays them on the bed beside her torso.
  3. She keeps her upper leg raised, resting it on him if she wants.
  4. Keep the movements small so you do not slip apart.

✓ Tips
  • Take your time finding the right height: slide up or down the bed until your pelvises line up without twisting.
  • She can rest her raised leg on his body or on a cushion so it does not get tired.
  • Keep the movements small; large thrusts tend to separate you in this position.
  • Use lubricant if needed, and a condom to prevent STIs and pregnancy.
  • Stop and readjust if either of you feels a twist in the hips or lower back.
Interaction type
Side-lying vaginal penetration in opposite directions (head to feet)
Active anatomy
Penis
Receptive anatomy
Vagina
Main stimulation
Shallow vaginal penetration lying on the side, head to feet
Setups and participants
Couple · 2 people Hetero

Frequently asked questions

Is Reversed Jam suitable for beginners?

Yes. It requires little strength or balance; the trickiest part is lining up your pelvises, which usually takes a couple of tries.

Is there eye contact?

No. Your heads are at opposite ends of the bed. The connection comes from touching legs and feet, which some couples enjoy as something different.

Can clitoral stimulation be added?

Yes. Her hands are free, so she can stimulate her clitoris with her fingers or a small vibrator while you move.

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