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Sweet Pillow: oral sex with the giver curled up between the legs of the partner lying down

Sweet Pillow is an oral sex position, without penetration. The partner receiving lies on his back and lifts his bent legs, wrapping them over the back of the partner giving, who kneels curled up between his legs, sitting back on the heels, with the head at his pelvis. It is a relaxed, enveloping position for the receiver and a cosy one for the giver, who sets the pace.

Also known as: Guimauve

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Illustration of Sweet Pillow: He lies on his back with his legs raised and wrapped over his partner, who kneels curled up between them, head at his pelvis, and gives him oral sex. No penetra
Anatomy and biomechanics

The receiving partner lies on his back on the bed, arms by his sides. He bends and lifts his legs: one crosses over the back of his partner and the other stays raised. The giving partner kneels between his legs, sitting back on the heels and folded forward over the thighs, in line with his body and facing towards his head, with the mouth at his pelvis. The giver hugs one of his thighs and controls rhythm and depth with the mouth. The receiver’s legs rest on the giver’s back, which creates the enveloping feel; the giver’s knees and neck carry the load.

Why this position works

Many people like the sense of being wrapped up: the receiver’s legs enclose the giver, who stays curled up close. The receiver can relax completely while the giver controls the pace and depth. There is no eye contact, so the focus is on touch and sensation.

Sensory Exploration Relaxation and Surrender Easy Non-Penetrative Interaction

Variations of this position

Variation 1: Cushion under his hips

A firm cushion under the receiver’s buttocks raises his pelvis towards the giver.

With the pelvis higher, the giver does not need to bend the neck as much and can stay more upright on the heels. The rest of the position stays the same.

  1. He lies on his back and slides a firm cushion under his buttocks.
  2. The giver kneels between his legs, sitting back on the heels.
  3. He raises his bent legs and rests them on the giver’s back.
  4. The giver adjusts the height of the cushion until the neck feels relaxed.

Variation 2: Both legs over the back

Instead of keeping one leg raised, the receiver crosses both legs over the giver’s back.

With both legs crossed, the hug is tighter and his legs rest completely, so he can relax more. He must keep them light so the giver can sit up easily.

  1. Get into the basic position.
  2. He lowers the raised leg and crosses it with the other over the giver’s back.
  3. He keeps his legs relaxed, without pressing.
  4. The giver lets him know if the weight becomes uncomfortable.

Variation 3: Giver lying face down

The giver lies face down between his legs, resting on the forearms, instead of kneeling.

Lying down takes the load off the knees and spreads the weight along the body; the forearms support the torso. His legs can rest on the giver’s shoulders or upper back.

  1. He lies on his back with his legs bent and apart.
  2. The giver lies face down between his legs, propped on the forearms.
  3. He rests his legs on the giver’s shoulders or back.
  4. The giver can place a pillow under the chest for comfort.

✓ Tips
  • The receiver should rest his legs gently on the giver’s back rather than press down; the giver needs to be able to sit up at any moment.
  • Agree on a signal to stop, such as a tap on the thigh, since the giver’s mouth is busy.
  • A cushion under the giver’s knees or shins and short breaks to stretch the neck make it more comfortable.
  • The receiver should avoid pushing his hips up: the giver sets the depth.
  • Oral sex can transmit STIs such as gonorrhoea, syphilis, herpes or HPV; a condom reduces the risk.
Interaction type
Oral sex (fellatio), no penetration
Active anatomy
Mouth
Receptive anatomy
Penis
Main stimulation
Oral sex on the penis (fellatio), led by the partner giving
Setups and participants
Couple · 2 people Hetero

Frequently asked questions

Is there penetration in Sweet Pillow?

No. It is an oral sex position: the partner kneeling gives oral sex to the partner lying on his back.

Is it tiring?

Very little for the receiver, who lies down. The giver kneels curled up, which can load the knees and neck over time; changing posture or adding a cushion helps.

Can two men do it?

Yes. The position works the same for any couple in which the receiver has a penis; there is a specific version for gay men.

How can the giver avoid neck strain?

Put a cushion under the receiver’s hips to raise his pelvis, or lie face down between his legs instead of kneeling.

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