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Physical effort: Low Posterior

Pleasure Servant: oral sex on all fours between the legs

The Pleasure Servant is a relaxed position for oral sex on the penis. The receiving partner half-lies on the bed, propped up on one elbow and forearm, with the legs open, one knee raised and the other leg stretched out. The giving partner kneels on all fours between their legs and lowers the head to the pelvis, resting on the knees and on the hands or forearms. The giving partner sets the pace, and because the receiving partner is propped up, the two can look at each other. There is no penetration.

Also known as: Oral sex on all fours · Fellatio on all fours

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Illustration of Pleasure Servant: Oral sex on the penis: the receiving partner reclines on one elbow with the legs apart, and the giving partner is on all fours between them, head lowered to the
Anatomy and biomechanics

The receiving partner lies partly on their side or back, supported on one elbow and forearm, with the buttocks on the bed. One knee is bent and raised and the other leg is extended, leaving space between the thighs. The giving partner kneels between the legs, on all fours, with the knees on the bed and the weight on the hands or forearms, and lowers the head towards the pelvis. From there they can use the lips, tongue and mouth on the penis and can move closer or further back by shifting the weight between knees and hands. The receiving partner's free hand can rest on the bed or gently on the other person's shoulder or hair. The effort is low for both; the giving partner loads the knees, wrists and neck if it goes on for a long time.

Why this position works

The receiving partner can relax and watch, and the giving partner has room to move and to choose the pace and depth with their head. Many people find it comfortable because nobody has to hold their own weight in the air. Being face to face, eye contact is easy, which some couples enjoy. Sensations and preferences vary from person to person.

Sensory Exploration Relaxation and Surrender Easy Non-Penetrative Interaction

Variations of this position

Variation 1: receiving partner lying flat on the back

The receiving partner lies flat on their back with a pillow under the head instead of propping up on an elbow.

The receiving partner relaxes completely and the shoulder and elbow rest, but eye contact is harder unless the pillow is high. The giving partner keeps the same position on all fours.

  1. The receiving partner lies on their back with one or two pillows under the head.
  2. The legs stay apart, one knee raised if comfortable.
  3. The giving partner kneels on all fours between the legs.
  4. Agree on a signal to slow down or stop.

Variation 2: giving partner lying on the belly between the legs

The giving partner lies on their belly between the legs, propped on the forearms, instead of staying on all fours.

The knees and wrists stop carrying weight, which makes it easier to keep going for longer. The giving partner has less freedom to move the body and works more with the neck and head.

  1. The receiving partner reclines on an elbow with the legs apart.
  2. The giving partner lies face down between the legs, forearms on the bed.
  3. A pillow under the giving partner's chest can relieve the neck.
  4. Change position if the neck gets tired.

Variation 3: adding the hand at the base

The giving partner rests on one forearm and uses the other hand around the base of the penis while using the mouth.

The hand controls depth and adds stimulation along the shaft, and the jaw can rest while the hand keeps the rhythm. The giving partner's weight moves onto one forearm and both knees.

  1. Start in the basic position on all fours.
  2. The giving partner moves onto one forearm.
  3. The free hand holds the base of the penis, with some saliva or lubricant if needed.
  4. Coordinate hand and mouth, or alternate them to rest.

✓ Tips
  • The giving partner sets the depth and pace: the receiving partner should not push or hold their head.
  • Put a cushion under the giving partner's knees, or lower onto the forearms if the wrists get tired.
  • Cover the teeth with the lips and use a hand at the base of the penis to control depth and rest the jaw.
  • Use a condom (flavoured if you like) to reduce the risk of sexually transmitted infections.
  • Take breaks and talk: a signal to stop or slow down helps.
Interaction type
Oral sex on the penis, with the giving partner on all fours
Active anatomy
Mouth, lips and tongue
Receptive anatomy
Penis
Main stimulation
Oral sex on the penis
Setups and participants
Couple · 2 people Hetero

Frequently asked questions

Is this position suitable for beginners?

Yes. It needs little strength or flexibility; the main thing is that the giving partner is comfortable on the knees and hands.

Who controls the pace?

The giving partner, who moves the head and body. The receiving partner can guide with words, but should not push.

Can sexually transmitted infections be passed on through oral sex?

Yes. A condom on the penis reduces the risk; regular testing also helps.

What if the giving partner's knees or wrists hurt?

Lower onto the forearms, put a cushion under the knees or try lying on the belly between the legs (variation 2).

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