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Double facesitting: a threesome with one partner riding and another sitting on the face

Double facesitting is a threesome position with one person at the centre, lying on their back. One partner kneels astride their pelvis and rides them, facing their head, while the third partner kneels over their face, facing their feet, to receive oral sex. The two partners on top end up face to face and can kiss and touch each other. It needs good communication, especially to protect the breathing and neck of the person underneath.

Also known as: Double cowgirl · Ride and face-sit threesome

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Anatomy and biomechanics

The central person lies on their back on the bed, legs extended, arms on the mattress and head flat, ideally without a high pillow. The riding partner kneels astride their pelvis, knees on the mattress on either side of the hips, torso upright and facing the central person's head; they control the depth, angle and rhythm of penetration. The third partner kneels astride the central person's head, facing their feet, knees on either side of the head and pelvis held just above the face; they control the pressure of the oral sex and must not rest their full weight on the face. The two partners on top face each other and can hold each other's shoulders for balance.

Why this position works

Some people enjoy the feeling of being the centre of attention, receiving and giving at the same time. For the two partners on top, it offers a rare chance to look at, kiss and caress each other while both are being pleasured. Each person controls something different, which can make it feel playful and shared. As with any threesome, it works best when everyone has agreed on limits beforehand.

Sensory Exploration Medium Penis-Vagina Configuration

Variations of this position

Variation 1: the two partners on top swap places

Halfway through, the rider and the partner over the face swap places, without the central person moving.

The posture is the same; only the people change places, so everyone gets to experience both roles. Barriers must be changed when swapping.

  1. Agree beforehand that you will swap and how you will signal it.
  2. Both partners on top climb off carefully, one at a time.
  3. Change the condom or dental dam before starting again.
  4. The former rider kneels over the face and the other partner rides the pelvis.

Variation 2: with a vibrator on the clitoris

The rider, or the partner opposite, holds a small vibrator against the rider's clitoris during penetration.

The posture does not change; a free hand adds a toy. Since the two partners on top face each other, either of them can hold it.

  1. Clean the vibrator and have it within reach before starting.
  2. Take up the basic position, with the two partners on top facing each other.
  3. The rider or the partner opposite places the vibrator on the clitoris, starting on a low setting.
  4. Clean the toy afterwards and do not share it without washing it or using a new condom.

Variation 3: the partner over the face holds the headboard

The partner over the face faces the headboard instead of the rider and holds on to it, which makes it easier to control their weight.

Facing the headboard, the partner over the face has a fixed support for the hands and can keep their pelvis raised more easily; they no longer face the rider.

  1. The central person lies with their head close to the headboard.
  2. The rider takes their place on the pelvis.
  3. The third partner kneels over the face, facing the headboard, and holds it with both hands.
  4. They keep their weight on their knees and hands, never fully on the face.

✓ Tips
  • The partner over the face should keep their weight on their knees and hover rather than sit fully: the central person must always be able to breathe.
  • Agree on a non-verbal stop signal for the person underneath, such as tapping a thigh twice, and stop immediately when it is used.
  • The rider should move with control: if the penis slips out and they come down hard on it, it can bend.
  • Use a condom for penetration and a dental dam or barrier for oral sex, and change them when switching partners or practices.
  • Use lubricant if needed and a thin pillow or none under the head, to avoid straining the neck.
  • Mistake: getting carried away and forgetting the person underneath. Check in with them often.
Interaction type
Threesome: vaginal penetration riding on top and oral sex sitting over the face
Active anatomy
Central person's penis and mouth
Receptive anatomy
Vagina of the rider and vulva of the partner over the face
Main stimulation
Vaginal penetration riding on top, plus oral sex for the partner sitting over the face
Setups and participants
Trio · 3 people In a threesome

Frequently asked questions

Who controls the rhythm?

The partner riding controls the penetration and the partner over the face controls the pressure of the oral sex. The central person has little room to move, so they need a clear way to say stop.

Is it safe for the person underneath?

It can be if the partner over the face does not put their full weight on it and there is an agreed stop signal. Short sessions and breaks are a good idea.

What protection should we use?

A condom for penetration and a dental dam for oral sex, changing barriers whenever you swap partners or practices.

Can the roles be swapped?

Yes. The two partners on top can change places, and the anatomy of each person can change the practices involved.

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