Ice Cream Sitting: seated rear entry in his lap, with a hug from behind
Ice Cream Sitting is a seated rear-entry position. He kneels and sits back on his heels with his torso upright; she sits on his thighs with her back against his chest, knees raised and feet flat on the floor in front of her. He hugs her from behind, his hands on her chest, and can kiss her neck or cheek. She sets the pace by pushing with her feet, and penetration, vaginal or anal, is of medium depth.
Also known as: Ice cream · The Sled
Anatomy and biomechanics
The penetrating partner kneels on the bed or a padded floor, sits back on his heels and keeps his torso upright. The receiving partner sits on his thighs and lap facing away from him, her back against his chest and her torso upright. Her knees are bent and raised, legs slightly apart, feet flat on the floor in front of her; she can rest one hand on the floor beside her. He wraps his arms around her from behind with his hands on her chest, and his face is close to her cheek. She controls the movement by pushing up and down with her feet and thighs; he has little room to move, because his weight is on his knees and insteps. Penetration can be vaginal or anal and is of medium depth. There is no eye contact, but there is broad body contact and he can kiss her neck.
Why this position works
Some couples like the embrace: his whole front is against her back, his arms around her and his mouth by her neck. She sets the rhythm and depth with her feet, which lets her find what feels good, and his hands, or hers, are close to her chest and clitoris. Penetration is of medium depth, and the angle from behind can feel different from face-to-face positions; sensations vary from person to person.
Variations of this position
Variation 1: she leans forward with her hands on the floor
She moves her back away from his chest and leans forward, placing both hands on the floor or bed in front of her feet.
Leaning forward tilts her pelvis and changes the angle of penetration; her hands give her extra support to rise and lower with less effort from her thighs. The hug and the kisses on the neck are lost, but he can hold her waist.
- Get into Ice Cream Sitting as in the base position.
- He moves his hands from her chest to her waist.
- She slowly leans forward and places her hands on the floor in front of her feet.
- She keeps setting the pace, now pushing with her feet and hands.
Variation 2: she keeps her knees together
The same position, but she brings her knees and feet together instead of keeping them slightly apart.
With her legs closed, her thighs press together and the feeling of tightness is usually greater for both, at the cost of a little side-to-side stability. It is harder for his hands to reach the clitoris, though she can do it from the front.
- Get into Ice Cream Sitting as in the base position.
- She gradually brings her knees and feet together, keeping her feet on the floor.
- He holds her a little more firmly by the chest or waist to steady her.
- She rises and lowers herself in short movements.
Variation 3: a cushion between his heels and buttocks
He places a firm cushion between his heels and buttocks before she sits down, so his knees do not bend all the way.
The cushion reduces how far his knees bend and spreads the weight of both partners, which is the main load in this position. His pelvis sits a little higher, so she may need to spread her feet a little to reach the floor.
- He kneels on a soft surface and places a firm cushion on his heels.
- He sits on the cushion with his torso upright.
- She sits in his lap with her back to him and places her feet on the floor in front.
- Continue as in the base position, with her setting the pace.
✓ Tips
- Kneeling on the heels loads his knees: use a soft surface, put a cushion between his heels and buttocks, and stop if his knees hurt.
- She should rise and lower herself with her feet and thighs, not drop her full weight onto him.
- With the receiving partner on top, guide the penis in by hand and keep movements controlled: if it slips out, do not sit back down on it. If there is a crack, sudden pain or loss of erection, stop and seek medical help.
- His hands are free: he can caress her chest or reach the clitoris, or she can do it herself.
- For anal sex, use plenty of lubricant and a condom, start slowly and never switch from anal to vaginal without changing the condom.
- Use a condom to prevent STIs and pregnancy, and stop if there is pain.
Key facts
- Interaction type
- Seated rear-entry vaginal or anal penetration, with the receiving partner in the lap of the kneeling
- Active anatomy
- Penis
- Receptive anatomy
- Vagina or anus
- Main stimulation
- Vaginal or anal penetration, seated from behind, of medium depth
- Setups and participants
- Couple · 2 people Hetero
Frequently asked questions
Who controls the rhythm?
Mainly the receiving partner: with her feet on the floor, she rises and lowers herself. He is kneeling on his heels and can only move a little.
Is it suitable for beginners?
It is of medium difficulty: the main issue is his knees, which hold both partners' weight. A cushion under the knees and another between his heels and buttocks make it easier.
Can it be done anally?
Yes. Use plenty of lubricant and a condom, start slowly and let the receiving partner control the depth. Do not switch from anal to vaginal without changing the condom.
Is there clitoral stimulation?
Not from the penetration itself, but his hands, or hers, are free to reach the clitoris, which many people find adds a lot.
Safety and evidence
Scientific context for common terms used on this page. Keeping these terms makes the content easier to understand; the sources clarify what is established and what remains uncertain.
G-spot: what the evidence says
“G-spot” is a widely used term for a sensitive area of the anterior vaginal wall. Scientific literature has not established a discrete anatomical structure with an agreed location, size and nature; sensitivity and response can vary between individuals.
A-spot / AFE zone: limited evidence
The “A-spot” or AFE zone has been proposed to describe a deeper area of the anterior vaginal wall. Available evidence is limited and does not support presenting it as a confirmed anatomical structure.
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