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The Whisper of the Gods: oral sex sitting on the face in an armchair

The Whisper of the Gods is an oral sex position, without penetration, done in an armchair. The giving partner slides down until they are almost lying in the chair, with their head at the base of the backrest and their feet on the floor. The receiving partner sits over their face and upper chest facing towards their feet, thighs resting along their torso, and arches back until their head rests on the top of the backrest. The mouth reaches the vulva and clitoris from below, and the hands of the giving partner are free to caress the receiving partner's torso.

Also known as: Reverse facesitting in an armchair

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Illustration of The Whisper of the Gods: Oral sex in an armchair: the giving partner slumps almost lying down, and the receiving partner sits over their face facing their feet, arching back.
Anatomy and biomechanics

The giving partner sits very low in an armchair, almost lying: back on the seat cushion, head at the base of the backrest facing up, legs bent over the front edge and feet on the floor. The receiving partner sits over their face and upper chest, facing towards their feet, with thighs resting along the giving partner's torso and knees bent over the front edge of the seat. The receiving partner then arches back until their head and hair rest on the top of the backrest. The vulva is right above the giving partner's mouth. The giving partner leads with lips and tongue, and the receiving partner can adjust the pressure by moving the pelvis slightly. There is no eye contact. The load falls on the lower back of the receiving partner, because of the arch, and on the neck of the giving partner, who carries part of the weight on the face.

Why this position works

Some couples like it because it gives very direct access to the vulva and clitoris while the receiving partner can relax the back against the chair and let go. The giving partner's hands are free to caress the torso and breasts at the same time. The receiving partner can also fine-tune the pressure with small movements of the pelvis. It is not a position for eye contact or kissing, and how it feels varies from person to person.

Sensory Exploration Maximized Clitoral Stimulation Medium Non-Penetrative Interaction

Variations of this position

Variation 1: receiving partner sitting upright

The receiving partner does not arch back, but sits upright with the hands on the giving partner's thighs or the armrests.

Instead of arching back to the top of the backrest, the receiving partner keeps the torso upright and rests the hands on the giving partner's thighs or on the armrests. The lower back works much less and it is easier to control how much weight goes onto the face below.

  1. The giving partner slides down into the armchair as in the basic position.
  2. The receiving partner sits over their face, facing their feet, knees over the front edge.
  3. Instead of arching back, the receiving partner sits upright and leans on the hands.
  4. Adjust the height with the knees so that the giving partner can breathe comfortably.

Variation 2: on the bed instead of the armchair

The giving partner lies on their back on the bed and the receiving partner kneels over their face, facing their feet.

Without the armchair, the giving partner lies flat on their back with a pillow under the head. The receiving partner kneels astride their face, facing their feet, with the knees on the mattress, which takes most of the weight off the face. There is no backrest, so the receiving partner sits upright or leans forward on the hands.

  1. The giving partner lies on their back on the bed with a pillow under the head.
  2. The receiving partner kneels astride their face, facing their feet.
  3. With the knees on the mattress, the receiving partner lowers the pelvis until it is within reach of the mouth.
  4. The receiving partner rests the hands on the giving partner's chest or thighs to keep balance.

Variation 3: cushion under the giving partner's neck

A firm cushion under the neck of the giving partner protects the neck and brings the mouth closer to the vulva.

The position stays the same, but the giving partner places a firm cushion between the neck and the base of the backrest. The head rises a little, the neck is supported instead of bent, and the receiving partner does not need to press down so much to be within reach.

  1. Before sliding down, the giving partner places a firm cushion at the base of the backrest.
  2. They slide down until the neck rests on the cushion.
  3. The receiving partner sits over their face, facing their feet, as in the basic position.
  4. Check together that the giving partner can breathe and move the head freely.

✓ Tips
  • Use a sturdy armchair that will not tip back, ideally against a wall.
  • The receiving partner should not drop their whole weight on the giving partner's face: keep part of it on the knees and thighs, and lift off as soon as the giving partner signals.
  • Agree on a clear signal, such as a tap on the thigh, because the giving partner cannot speak easily.
  • Arch the back only as far as is comfortable; if the lower back hurts, sit more upright (see variation 1).
  • A dental dam reduces the risk of STIs in oral sex, especially with partners whose status you do not know.
Interaction type
Oral sex on the vulva (cunnilingus), sitting on the face
Active anatomy
Mouth and tongue
Receptive anatomy
Vulva and clitoris
Main stimulation
Vulva and clitoris (oral sex)
Setups and participants
Couple · 2 people Hetero

Frequently asked questions

Is there penetration in The Whisper of the Gods?

No. It is an oral sex position: the giving partner stimulates the vulva and clitoris with lips and tongue.

Is it comfortable for the partner underneath?

It can be, if the receiving partner keeps part of their weight on their knees and thighs. A cushion under the neck helps, and you should stop if breathing or the neck becomes uncomfortable.

Do you need a lot of flexibility?

The receiving partner needs some back flexibility to arch towards the backrest. It is optional: sitting more upright works just as well.

Can you add anal caresses?

You can, if both of you want it. Use a dental dam and do not go from the anus to the vulva without washing first, to avoid infections.

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