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Classic Embrace Position: oral sex from behind on the sofa

The Classic Embrace Position is an oral sex position from behind, on a sofa. She lies on her side on the seat, curled up with her knees drawn to her chest and her buttocks at the end of the sofa. He kneels on the floor behind her and, holding her buttocks, reaches her vulva and anus with his mouth. She can relax completely while he sets the pace. There is no eye contact, and anilingus calls for hygiene and a barrier.

Also known as: Cunnilingus from behind · Rimming from behind

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Illustration of Classic Embrace Position: Oral sex from behind: she lies curled on her side on the sofa; he kneels on the floor and reaches her vulva and anus with his mouth.
Anatomy and biomechanics

She lies on her side on the sofa seat in a curled position, knees drawn up towards her chest and legs together, with her arms near her head and her buttocks right at the end of the seat. Bringing the knees up exposes the vulva and the anus from behind. He kneels on the floor at that end of the sofa, torso upright and leaning towards her, so his face is at the height of her buttocks. He holds her buttocks with both hands, opening them slightly, and uses his mouth on her vulva and, if both wish, on her anus. He sets the pace; she just stays relaxed. They cannot see each other, and body contact is limited to his hands and mouth. The effort is low; the main load falls on his knees on the floor.

Why this position works

She does not need to hold any posture: lying curled up on her side, she can relax completely and let herself go. The curled position gives easy access from behind to the vulva and, for those who enjoy it, to the anus, and he can move from one to the other. Some people find the lack of eye contact makes it easier to concentrate on the sensations. Sensations vary from person to person.

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Variations of this position

Variation 1: lower leg stretched out

She stretches out the leg she is lying on and keeps only the upper knee drawn to her chest.

Only her legs change: with the lower leg straight and the upper one bent, her thighs separate and the vulva is more open from behind, so his mouth reaches it more easily. Her hips stay at the end of the sofa and she is just as relaxed.

  1. Start in the basic position, curled on her side.
  2. She slowly stretches out the leg she is lying on along the seat.
  3. She keeps the upper knee drawn towards her chest, resting on a cushion if she likes.
  4. He adjusts the height of his head and continues from behind.

Variation 2: on the edge of the bed instead of the sofa

The same position, with her curled on her side at the edge of the bed and him kneeling on the floor.

Only the furniture changes: the bed is usually wider and softer than a sofa, so she has more room to curl up and support her head. If the bed is higher than the sofa, he can kneel upright on a cushion or sit on his heels to find the right height.

  1. She lies on her side across the edge of the bed, with her buttocks right at the edge.
  2. She draws her knees up towards her chest and rests her head on a pillow.
  3. He kneels on a cushion on the floor and adjusts his height to her hips.
  4. He holds her buttocks and continues as in the basic position.

Variation 3: she strokes her clitoris

She brings one hand down between her thighs and strokes her clitoris while he uses his mouth from behind.

Only her upper arm changes: instead of resting near her head, it reaches down in front of her body to the clitoris. From behind, his mouth can then focus on the entrance of the vagina or on the anus while she controls the clitoral stimulation herself.

  1. Start in the basic position.
  2. She brings her upper hand down in front of her body, between her thighs.
  3. She strokes her clitoris at her own pace.
  4. He adapts his rhythm to hers and focuses on the areas he reaches from behind.

✓ Tips
  • Put a cushion or a folded towel under his knees: he will be kneeling on the floor for a while.
  • If you include anilingus, wash beforehand and use a dental dam or a cut condom as a barrier to reduce the risk of infections.
  • Do not go from the anus to the vulva with the mouth or fingers without washing or changing the barrier: it can cause vaginal or urinary infections.
  • She can rest her head on a cushion and adjust how much she draws up her knees until she is comfortable.
  • Agree beforehand on what each of you wants, especially regarding anilingus, and stop if something does not feel good.
Interaction type
Oral sex from behind (cunnilingus and, if desired, anilingus), with her lying on her side on a sofa
Active anatomy
Mouth and tongue
Receptive anatomy
Vulva, clitoris and anus
Main stimulation
Oral stimulation of the vulva and anus from behind, with her lying curled on her side
Setups and participants
Couple · 2 people Hetero

Frequently asked questions

Is it a comfortable position for her?

Yes: she is lying down and only needs to keep her knees drawn up. A cushion under her head and another against her chest make it even more comfortable.

Is anilingus necessary?

No. The position works just as well for cunnilingus only; anilingus is an option for those who want it, with hygiene and a barrier.

How can we change the angle?

She can stretch out her lower leg to open up access to the vulva, or the position can be moved to the edge of the bed (variations 1 and 2).

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