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The Speaker: Complete Guide to the Intimate Sexual Position

The Speaker is a sexual position that combines intimacy and mutual stimulation, ideal for couples seeking connection and reciprocal pleasure. This position allows for deep exploration and close communication during the sexual act.

Also known as: Speaker / The Conversationalist / The Conversation

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Illustration of The Speaker: Position with the person on top controlling the rhythm with clitoral stimulation.
Anatomy and biomechanics

In The Speaker, the bodies are positioned lying down, one on top of the other. The focus of stimulation is clitoral and is usually non-penetrative. Adjust the height and supports (pillows, edge of the bed) to keep you both comfortable and stable.

Why this position works

This position is appreciated for its ability to foster intimacy and emotional connection between couples. Mutual stimulation and the ability to adjust the intensity of contact make it very pleasurable.

Sensory Exploration Maximized Clitoral Stimulation Medium Non-Penetrative Interaction

Variations of this position

The Reversed Speaker: Position Change Variant

In this variant, the partner who was on top switches to the bottom and vice versa, changing the roles of stimulation.

  1. Get into the initial position of The Speaker.
  2. Switch roles so that whoever was on top is now on the bottom and vice versa.
  3. Adjust the height and supports to maintain comfort and stability.

The Speaker with Lateral Support: Comfort Variant

In this variant, one of the bodies leans laterally, allowing for greater comfort and access to different stimulation areas.

  1. Get into the starting position of The Speaker.
  2. Turn one of the bodies to the side, resting the head and shoulders on a pillow.
  3. Adjust the position to maintain comfort and stability, and continue with mutual stimulation.

The Speaker with Elevated Legs: Intensity Boost Variant

In this variant, one partner elevates their legs, allowing for more intense clitoral stimulation.

  1. Start in the initial position of The Speaker.
  2. Elevate the legs of the partner receiving clitoral stimulation, resting them on the shoulders or a pillow.
  3. Adjust the position for comfort and stability, and continue with mutual stimulation.

✓ Tips
  • Use pillows or cushions to adjust the height and avoid tension in the back.
  • Communicate constantly to adjust the intensity and rhythm of the stimulation.
  • Avoid sudden movements that could cause discomfort or injury.
  • Maintain a constant and relaxed breathing to increase pleasure and comfort.
Interaction type
69 position, oral sex on the penis, oral sex on the vulva, oral sex
Active anatomy
Vulva / Penis / Tongue
Receptive anatomy
Vulva / Penis / Anus
Main stimulation
Clitoral and oral
Setups and participants
Couple · 2 people Hetero

Frequently asked questions

Is it necessary to use lubricant in this position?

Yes, the use of lubricant can improve comfort and pleasure, especially if the stimulation is prolonged.

Can this position be performed without penetration?

Yes, The Speaker is a position that focuses on oral and clitoral stimulation, so penetration is not necessary.

What should I do if I feel discomfort in my back?

Adjust the height with pillows or cushions and make sure both bodies are well supported. If the discomfort persists, change positions.

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