The Afrodisiac Pot: sitting on the lap at the edge of the bed, facing away
The Afrodisiac Pot is a seated position at the edge of the bed. The penetrating partner sits with feet on the floor and leans back on one hand. The receiving partner sits on their lap facing away, back against the chest, with knees together and both legs angled to one side, side-saddle. The receiving partner sets the pace by rocking the pelvis, and by turning their head the faces come close enough to kiss. The penetrating partner has a hand free for the chest or the clitoris. Penetration tends to be deep.
Also known as: Reverse lap sitting · Side-saddle
Anatomy and biomechanics
The penetrating partner sits on the edge of the bed with feet flat on the floor and leans the torso back, supported on one straight arm with the palm on the mattress. The receiving partner sits on their lap facing away, back against the chest and torso upright, slightly turned to one side; the knees stay together and bent, both legs angled to the same side over the partner's thigh, with the feet hanging or brushing the floor. The receiving partner moves by rocking and grinding the pelvis, in short strokes, and controls the depth, which tends to be deep. The penetrating partner's free hand rests on the chest or reaches the clitoris. When the receiving partner turns their head, the faces are close and kissing is possible. Body contact is broad, back to chest; the supporting wrist bears part of the load.
Why this position works
It combines the closeness of sitting on a partner's lap with control for the receiving partner, who chooses depth and pace. The penetrating partner can caress the chest or stimulate the clitoris at the same time, and turning the head is enough to kiss. With the legs to one side, the angle is a little different from the usual reverse seated positions, and some people enjoy the deep pressure it creates. Sensations vary from person to person.
Variations of this position
Variation 1: legs apart, feet on the floor
Instead of keeping the legs to one side, the receiving partner opens them and places one foot on each side of the partner's knees.
Only the receiving partner's legs change: astride the thighs, with the feet on the floor, they can push with the legs and lift a little, which gives more range of movement and a more centred angle. The torso turns less, so kissing is harder; the rest stays the same.
- Start in the main position.
- The receiving partner opens the legs and places each foot on the floor outside the partner's knees.
- Using the feet, they rise and lower in short strokes.
- The penetrating partner holds the hip with the free hand to steady them.
Variation 2: on a sturdy armless chair
The penetrating partner sits on a sturdy armless chair instead of the edge of the bed, with the receiving partner on their lap in the same way.
Only the furniture changes: on a chair the penetrating partner sits upright and does not need to lean back on one hand, so both hands are free for the hips, chest or clitoris. The seat is firmer than a mattress, which gives stability; the receiving partner's legs stay to one side.
- Choose a sturdy chair without arms and place it against a wall so it does not slide.
- The penetrating partner sits with feet flat on the floor and back upright.
- The receiving partner sits on their lap facing away, legs together to one side.
- They rock the pelvis while the partner uses both hands to hold and caress.
Variation 3: the receiving partner leans forward
The receiving partner leans the torso forward and rests the hands on their own knees or on the partner's knees.
Only the angle of the torso changes: leaning forward tilts the pelvis back and changes the angle of entry, which some people find more intense. The faces move apart and there is no kissing; the penetrating partner can hold the hips and see the movement.
- Start in the main position.
- The receiving partner leans the torso forward and rests the hands on their knees or the partner's knees.
- They rock the pelvis in short strokes from this angle.
- Go back to the upright position to kiss or rest.
✓ Tips
- Sit on a firm part of the mattress, right at the edge, with both feet well planted on the floor.
- The receiving partner rocks and grinds rather than lifting high: if the penis slips out and they come down on it at an angle, it can bend and be injured.
- If the supporting wrist tires, switch hands or move to a chair (variation 2).
- Use lubricant and a condom; for anal sex, plenty of lubricant, a slow entry controlled by the receiving partner, and stop if there is pain.
Key facts
- Interaction type
- Vaginal or anal penetration sitting on the lap facing away, with the receiving partner setting the p
- Active anatomy
- Penis and fingers
- Receptive anatomy
- Vagina or anus, and clitoris
- Main stimulation
- Deep vaginal or anal penetration, sitting on the lap facing away, with a hand on the clitoris
- Setups and participants
- Couple · 2 people Hetero
Frequently asked questions
Who controls the rhythm?
The receiving partner, rocking the pelvis on the partner's lap. The penetrating partner mostly provides support and uses the free hand.
Is it suitable for beginners?
Yes, with some care: the effort is moderate and the edge of the bed gives stability. Short strokes are safer than lifting and dropping.
Can you kiss?
Yes, if the receiving partner turns the head and torso slightly; the faces are close.
Can it be used for anal sex?
Yes. Because the receiving partner controls the entry, it can be done slowly. Use plenty of lubricant and a condom, and stop if there is pain.
Safety and evidence
Scientific context for common terms used on this page. Keeping these terms makes the content easier to understand; the sources clarify what is established and what remains uncertain.
G-spot: what the evidence says
“G-spot” is a widely used term for a sensitive area of the anterior vaginal wall. Scientific literature has not established a discrete anatomical structure with an agreed location, size and nature; sensitivity and response can vary between individuals.
A-spot / AFE zone: limited evidence
The “A-spot” or AFE zone has been proposed to describe a deeper area of the anterior vaginal wall. Available evidence is limited and does not support presenting it as a confirmed anatomical structure.
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