Deep Drumming: lying across your partner's lap on the sofa

She rests her hands or forearms on a low pouf or a stack of cushions instead of the floor.

With her hands higher, her upper body is less steeply angled and her head is not as low, so there is less load on her wrists and less blood rushing to her head. She can stay in position longer.

1. Place a low pouf or a stack of firm cushions on the floor next to the sofa.
2. He sits upright on the sofa with both feet on the floor.
3. She lies face down across his lap and rests her hands or forearms on the pouf.
4. He caresses her buttocks and stimulates her vulva by hand while she rocks against his thigh.

She opens her legs on the sofa seat instead of keeping them together.

With her legs apart, his hand reaches the vulva and clitoris from behind much more easily, and he can use his fingers inside the vagina if she wants. Her thighs no longer press together, so the rubbing against his thigh is lighter.

1. Get into the base position, with her lying across his lap.
2. She slides one leg towards the back of the sofa and the other towards the edge of the seat.
3. He slides his hand between her thighs from behind, with lubricant if needed.
4. She tells him the pressure and rhythm she likes, and can close her legs again whenever she wants.

He alternates caresses with light, rhythmic taps on her buttocks, as agreed beforehand.

The position stays the same; what changes is the touch. Alternating soft strokes, squeezes and gentle taps on the fleshy part of the buttocks adds rhythm and a stronger sense of play, which some people find arousing.

1. Agree beforehand whether she wants taps, how firm, and a word or signal to stop.
2. Get into the base position and start with slow caresses on her buttocks and thighs.
3. Add light taps with an open hand on the fleshy part of the buttocks, never on the lower back.
4. Alternate taps with caresses and manual stimulation, and check in with her often.